DOOOOOO YOU KNOW WHAT TODAY IS?? IT’S OUR ANNIVERSARY
Two years ago, I was visiting a friend in Atlanta and sharing with him some of my goals for women in business. I talked about hosting an event where women did not have to be perfect. An event where women did not have to be the most popular girl in the city. An event where women were not judged on the brand of shoe she wore or whether she had the newest handbag. I simply wanted to create a positive and genuine networking environment for women where they can develop the skills and network she needs to take her business concept to the next level.
Two years ago, that vision came to life when I hosted the very first Boss Babes Brunch in Montgomery, Alabama at The Sanctuary. And it was amazing!!!!
Two years later, I am preparing to host the 15th stop of the Boss Babes Brunch Tour in Chicago, IL. If you had asked me in January that I would have traveled to 14 cities across the United States to provide women an afternoon of Motivation, Mingling, and Mimosas, I would have told you that you were crazy.
I knew it was time for me to transition out of Montgomery, Alabama, but I had no idea where I was supposed to go. I prayed, I fasted, I was confident, I second-guessed myself, I wrote out ideas, I even shared some of those ideas. But eventually, I had to take a bold step. I sat down with a pen, paper, and Google maps and began to put together my masterplan. An hour later, the Boss Babes Brunch Tour schedule was ready to go.
I did not allow myself the opportunity to talk myself out of this crazy and ambitious idea of taking a tour across the country. I simply put action behind my words and these are the results so far.
I have learned so much as I have embarked on this unconventional, challenging, and faith-filled journey. I have met hundreds of incredible people and made countless memories I will never forget. I have succeeded, I have failed. I have felt a huge sense of accomplishment, I have embarrassed myself. I have over-delivered, I have fallen short. But of all things, I have accomplished the original task at hand: To provide women in business an afternoon of Motivation, Mingling, and Mimosas.
I have learned so much about myself and pushed myself to limits that I did not believe existed and I am still here! I want you to know that executing your vision, regardless of how small or big, is not reserved to a select group of people. I have learned so many lessons that will be shared in my new book project coming out next year. But, I have three very important ones below that everyone can use today!
Put one foot in front of the other – As I wrote in, “Boss Up! Pursue Your Purpose With Confidence”, “You do not have to know every step, you just have to take one.” I have NEVER been on a tour before. I have NEVER traveled in my car across the country by myself. I have NEVER gone into cities where I had no network and had to build a following from scratch. It is scary. It is definitely going to be overwhelming at times, but it is not impossible.
In the times that I have looked at this huge mountain in front of me and felt a paralyzing feeling of fear, I would take a deep breath and remember that I do not know everything, and I do know have to know everything in the moment. I just need to have faith in the God who gave me the vision and have the courage to simply take the next step. Stop being obsessed with having to know every single detail. If that is what you are waiting for, you will never start.
Be careful of the people you include in your vision – Everyone is not for you. Everything that glitters is not gold. I could leave that as enough said, but I will bring in a scriptural reference. In Matthew 10:1 Jesus is speaking to His disciples before He sent them out and said this to them, “I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore, wise as serpents, but harmless as doves.”
One thing I have come to learn is that just because you have good intentions does not mean everyone else will. It is up to you to be discerning and pray before including people in your vision. Although I like to see the best in everyone, I know that everyone is not for me. However, there is a large group of people out there who will see what you are doing and want to show as much support as they possibly can. That brings me to my last point.
Closed mouths don’t get fed – Confession: I am super prideful. I hate asking for help. I hate when people know that I am struggling in a certain area of my life. I hate not being perfect. But, when you are in a situation where you must lean on the help of other people, it is time for you to take your pride and throw it away. When you are starting out, especially with a small budget, like your girl, you don’t have the time for pride. One of my mentors called me in June and asked me how everything was going. I responded, “Everything is great! I am having such a great time!” That was a lie!
I was struggling. I needed an order of books, I needed to pay for my event space, and I needed to book a room for my next city. My checking account balance was not going to allow me to pay for all three. Luckily, she knew better and gave me a second chance to answer her question honestly. Because I was able to drop my pride, she was able to help me and order a shipment of books for me. It was such a relief.
The lesson is that the people who love and support you want to see you succeed Whether it is $5.00 or $500 if they have it and are wanting to give it, accept it. Also, do not be afraid to share your vision and what you do with other people. I was staying in a hostel in Dallas and met a young lady who had a team of Mary Kay reps. She asked me about my career and I shared with her that I was an author. She not only purchased my book on Kindle, she then encouraged the rest of her team to purchase as well.
I have so many stories of strangers I have met across the country who have supported me on the spot by simply hearing about what I do and the vision for my company. There are people who want to support you. Unfortunately, they cannot if you never say anything.
I would have never in a million years thought that this would be the journey I would have taken this year. When I decided to take it, I did not think it would have been the crazy journey it has been. But, I am so happy that I have moved forward through the ups and downs. Through the times I wanted to quit and cancel the rest of my events. I took a chance on myself and my life will never be the same.
If you want to support the Boss Babes Brunch Tour, there are three ways you can do it:
1. Financially – If you would like to make a small or large financial donation to the Boss Babes Brunch Tour, you can do so through PayPal or CashApp ($BossBabesBrunch)
3. Share – If you see that we are coming to your city or you have friends in a city you live in, share the event with them. Trust me, it helps!
There 11 more cities on our 2018 tour schedule and I cannot wait to share more details, lessons, and funny stories with you! Until next time…